Masturbation – Discover Your Pleasure & the Right Toys

Masturbation is more than just a quick orgasm. It’s an intimate adventure, a deeply personal journey to yourself that can gently guide you into the world of sensuality or powerfully lead you into direct physical pleasure. Some days, you may simply want to lean back, with your favorite music playing, soft candlelight surrounding you, and your full attention focused on your body and your imagination. On other days, you might feel the urge to release the built-up tension of everyday life, intentionally using your hands, your body, and your toys to transform every ounce of stress into pure, liberating pleasure.

In every moment, one rule matters most: your body, your rules, your pace.

It’s about creating a safe space where you can explore what feels good without judgment or pressure. Statistics show that around 13% of people with a penis masturbate daily, while the number is closer to 7% for people with a clitoris. But pleasure isn’t a competition. Every single moment you consciously dedicate to yourself is a valuable opportunity to get to know your body better, try new techniques, and strengthen your connection with yourself.

This guide accompanies you on your journey of discovery—with practical tips, inspiration, and honest answers to your questions.

For People with a Clitoris & Vulva: Discover a Universe of Pleasure

Your body is a landscape full of pleasure points, just waiting to be explored. Your journey can begin slowly and gently—or directly and intensely. You are the compass.

The Gentle, Sensual Approach

Some evenings are made for slow exploration. You’re lying on your back, the lights are dimmed, maybe a soft song is playing in the background. Instead of rushing toward the finish line, you begin a journey of discovery.

• The Beginning: Don’t start at the clitoris right away. Gently stroke your thighs, your stomach, the insides of your arms. Feel the warmth of your own hands and notice how a subtle tingling sensation begins to spread.

• The Exploration: Slowly move toward the outer labia. Use different fingers and vary the pressure. Explore the mons pubis. Every touch becomes a new discovery. Your breathing deepens, your thoughts begin to drift—scenes, memories, fantasies. Each moment builds desire without any need to rush.

• Going Deeper: When you’re ready, explore the inner labia. Gently insert one or two fingers and discover the texture of your vaginal walls. Search for the G-spot—a slightly rough, raised area about 2 inches (around 5 cm) inside on the front vaginal wall. Gentle, pulsing pressure here can feel incredibly intense.

Direct, Powerful Pleasure

Sometimes, there’s no need for a long build-up. You want to feel intensity right away, clear your mind, and let your energy flow.

• Focus on the Clitoris: The clitoris is the center of pleasure. Experiment with direct pressure, circular motions, or gentle tapping. Find out whether you prefer stimulation directly on the glans or just beside it.

• Combination Is Key: Use one hand for your clitoris while stimulating your breasts or nipples with the other. At the same time, insert a finger or a toy into your vagina. Combining different types of stimulation can lead to explosive orgasms.

• Find the Right Rhythm: Vary your pace. Start slowly, build up speed and intensity, then ease off just before climax. This technique—known as “edging”—can make the final orgasm significantly more intense.

Inspiration for Your Solo Sessions

• Positions: Don’t just lie on your back. Try lying on your stomach (with a pillow under your pelvis), kneeling on all fours in front of a mirror, or attaching a suction-cup vibrator to the shower wall.

• Breathing: Use your breath consciously. Breathe deeply into your belly, hold your breath briefly as arousal builds, and exhale powerfully during orgasm.

• Toys as Partners: A vibrator can complement your hands, not replace them. Use it for G-spot stimulation while your fingers focus on the clitoris. A pulsator offers a completely new kind of touch-free stimulation. Ben Wa balls are perfect for pelvic floor training, which can noticeably intensify your orgasms.

For People with a Penis & Prostate: Control, Intensity, and New Horizons

There’s much more to discover here than just the quick path to orgasm. It’s about control, playing with arousal, and exploring entirely new pleasure zones.

Controlled, Mindful Stimulation

Take your time to build the moment. It’s not just about reaching climax quickly—it’s about enjoying the journey.

• The Warm-Up: Start with gentle touches across your entire body. Softly massage your testicles in your hand and feel their weight. Stroke the perineum (the area between the testicles and anus)—an often overlooked but highly sensitive hotspot.

• The Grip: Vary your grip. Use your whole hand, just your fingertips, or even switch hands. Try the “stranger grip” by placing your thumb downward. Be sure to use lubricant for a smoother, more pleasurable sensation.

• The Pause: When you feel close to orgasm, stop or slow down your stimulation. Focus on your breathing. This practice not only improves stamina but also makes the final orgasm significantly more intense.

Intense, Deep Pleasure

Sometimes, you simply want something powerful and releasing.

• Power & Speed: Alternate between fast and slow movements. Apply more or less pressure as you go. A firm grip around the base of the penis can increase intensity.

• Exploring the Prostate: The prostate—often referred to as the “male G-spot”—is located about 2 inches (around 5 cm) inside the anus, toward the front of the body. Carefully insert a lubricated finger and feel for a walnut-sized area. Gentle, massaging pressure here can unlock entirely new types of orgasmic sensations.

Toys for New Dimensions:

A masturbator offers textures and tightness that hands alone can’t replicate. A penis pump can create a fuller sensation and a visually enhanced erection. And a prostate stimulator allows you to target this unique pleasure point precisely—even hands-free.

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FAQ – Your Honest Guide to All Your Questions

Here we answer the questions you might not dare to ask. Openly, honestly, and without taboos.

How do I even start with masturbation as a woman?

The most important step is giving yourself permission. Create an environment where you feel comfortable. Dim the lights, put on some music. Start by gently touching your entire body, not just your genitals. Be curious. When you feel ready, explore your vulva with your fingers. Use lubricant to make the experience more comfortable. There is no right or wrong—only your own path.

Masturbation in a relationship - is it okay?

Absolutely! Masturbation is not a replacement for partnered sex, but a complement to it. 83% of our customers in relationships masturbate regularly. It is your personal time for yourself. It helps you better understand your own preferences, which you can then communicate to your partner—an enrichment for any love life.

I find it “disgusting” to insert my fingers into my vagina. What can I do?

This is a feeling some people experience. Ask yourself what exactly causes the discomfort, or whether it might be an internalized belief. Masturbation—especially female sexuality—is still often stigmatized in society. Are it your fingernails? Keep them short and clean. Do your fingers feel rough? Use plenty of lubricant. You can also try ultra-thin disposable gloves or special silicone finger cots. If the feeling remains, that’s perfectly okay. There are many vibrators and toys specifically designed for vaginal stimulation that can fully replace fingers.

How can I learn to squirt as a woman?

Squirting is a form of female ejaculation, where fluid is released from the Skene’s glands near the urethra. Many women achieve this through targeted G-spot stimulation. At first, the pressure may feel like you need to urinate. If you allow yourself to relax instead of tensing your pelvic floor, squirting may occur. A strong pelvic floor (trained, for example, with Ben Wa balls) can help. It’s best to try it somewhere where it’s okay to get wet, such as in the shower or on a towel.

I only orgasm with toys. How can I do it without them again?

Don’t worry—this is very common. Toys are highly efficient, and your body has simply adapted to stronger stimulation. To reach orgasm without them again, patience is key. Revisit how you used to do it. Take more time for self-foreplay, use your imagination, and avoid putting pressure on yourself. Gradually reduce toy usage instead of stopping abruptly.

What can I do if I come too quickly (or too slowly)?

Too quickly: Practice the “stop-start technique.” Pause just before climax and let arousal subside slightly before continuing. Too slowly: Increase variety in stimulation. Switch between different erogenous zones, combine hands and toys, try new positions, or use toys with more intense vibration patterns. Often, it’s also a mental factor—try to let go of performance pressure.

How can I teach my clitoris to enjoy gentler touch again?

Similar to the “only orgasm with toys” topic, this is about conditioning to intense stimulation. Give your clitoris a break from strong vibrations. Take time for gentle sensations again. Use a feather, a silk cloth, or just the soft tip of your finger. Get yourself aroused beforehand so your clitoris is naturally more receptive to lighter touch.